When IVF with donor eggs fails, what next?

Although clinics now all over the world proclaim about the high success rates you have to remember that the treatment sometimes fails. When that happens you should think about taking some time to restore physically and emotionally. Before you decide what’s next maybe you should take these options under consideration:

Take it easy
According to experts you should take your time and try again after a couple of months if you still want to of course. These treatments can be very stressful that is why you should take a break, forget about fertility drugs and take a “chill pill” instead (speaking figuratively of course, we are not encouraging any unnecessary medicaments). This should be the period of mind and body renewal. Use this time to rethink your options and think about how You feel. You can also consider seeing a counsellor.

However if you insist to take some action you could try and talk with your clinic if you should try the treatment again. Go through your options with your doctor, should you try a different method or try the same once more? Maybe there are some things that could be done to rise the chances a bit more.
Don’t rush any decisions. Some people think that changing a doctor or a clinic is a good idea, they have become frustrated with the lack of success. Remember that the current clinic and its doctors know a lot more about the specifics of your condition. Changing them could be a wrong way to go.

Learn why your treatment failed
Speak to your clinician about the reasons your treatment didn’t end with pregnancy. One of the most common reasons for lack of successful pregnancy is the embryos development failure. Very often it is not clear why wouldn’t the embryos develop in the womb properly but it could be caused by one of these cases:

  1. It could be chromosomes problems – many healthy looking embryos have defective chromosomes.
  2. It may have been that the egg did not mature properly or after the fertilisation it divided not how it should have.
  3. It could be because of the poor blood flow to the womb. If there’s poor circulation in the womb, chance for pregnancy is decreased and if you conceive there is a bigger chance of miscarriage. This could happen even if there is nothing wrong with the embryos.

Another main reason is the cancellation of the treatment before collecting eggs or embryo transfer to the womb. This can also happen for various reasons.

Here are some of them:

  1. Because of OHSS (Ovarian hyper-stimulation syndrome). Drugs used for egg production stimulation could enlarge the ovaries to dangerous extents.
  2. The ovaries could not respond to the fertility drugs at all
  3. No embryos developed because the collected eggs were not fertilised.
  4. Sometimes when collecting the eggs it turns out there are none in the follicles. The follicles could develop but still be empty inside.

Stopping the treatment
After trying numerous times or maybe just once, there comes a time when you will have to decide to stop. There are a lot of different reasons. Some of them are as simple as lack of financial capabilities when you simply cannot afford another try. Let’s not forget it’s not a cheap procedure and another one could be even more expensive if you decide to spend some additional money to boost up the chances. There is also a chance you won’t be emotionally capable for trying again or you will just feel that enough is enough and that maybe it is high time to get on with your life. The decision could also be taken out of your hands if your specialist tells you that there is too little or no chance at all of getting pregnant. Either way if you feel like it you may try and talk to a counsellor.

Trying something different
Stopping the treatment does not mean you are all out of options. There are other people that were in the same situation as you. You can contact such couples and seek advice on what to do next.

Other options include surrogacy, adoption or being a foster parent. You should also remember that you can be happy with life as it is and try to explore the possibilities of life with no children.